Written by Ashley
We’ve had the privilege of being counseled by some really wise people who have shown us wonderful marriage examples. One piece of advice pops in my mind most often.
“You’re on the same team.”
I know,I know, it sounds really simple and I should have already known that about my relationship with Zach. But in the day-to-day frustrations of “please pick up your wet towel”, or “it’s your turn to feed the cats”, or “we don’t have enough money for you to do that”...I just forget we have the same goal in mind.
I’ll frame it this way… (while I drop some football knowledge on you and make my husband proud) Why would Artavius Scott, a Clemson football wide receiver (he catches the ball), fight with Deshaun Watson, the Clemson quarterback (he throws the ball)? I mean, don’t they have the same goal to win a National Championship? To constantly oppose and wish harm on the other person would only cause their team to fail and lose sight of the fact that they both want the SAME THING.
In my marriage, I forget so many times that Zach really wants the same thing that I want. We want to enjoy our lives together. We want to love God, each other, and other people. Zach even wants to stay married to me forever, which is what I really want to. So why should I think of him as my enemy? He is my teammate. He’s even more of my teammate than Artavius is to Deshaun, because we share a bed and they don’t. Ha.
Zach is FOR me and has my best interest in mind. I am FOR Zach and I also want the best things for him. So I’m going to try my hardest to keep remembering that advice. My husband is my teammate. He’s on my side. I don’t have to fight him. I don’t need to win any argument because we’re on the same team.
What’s the best marriage advice you’ve been given?